Why Taylor Swift and I would make great friends

I’m just going to be honest, I have always loved Taylor Swift but after reading about her cover on the 40th anniversary edition of People Magazine, I may just love her a little bit more. 

I have always had this theory, that no matter what the occasion, the problem, or the heartache, there is a T-Swift song for it. After reading her interview with People Magazine, I think its time to take that theory to a whole new level, not only does Taylor Swift always have a song to describe my life, I really think we would be great friends. Not only does she see preach the greatness of cats – the number one mascot of the single women’s club, but she also believes in the importance of finding happiness and independence within yourself before seeking it in someone else:

“The last couple of years have been about defining life on my own terms. Being on my own, prioritizing my girlfriends, my family and my music above everything else and trying things I never thought I’d try. It’s really been a liberating and freeing time.”

In another confession of complete honesty, unlike Taylor Swift who has a raft of exes from Taylor Lautner to Harry Styles, the boat full of my exes is empty. In the past I have had people ask why I have never had boyfriend or why I am not trying to find one. Answering why I have never had a boyfriend is the question out of the two which I often find more difficult to answer. I used to think it was because I wasn’t enough, whether that be funny enough, pretty enough, smart enough or quite simply anything enough for someone to want a relationship with me but then I realised that perhaps the reason was that I needed to learn to love myself first. In order to put myself out there to others I needed to accept myself for all of my qualities from the very best to my very worst. Instead of seeing myself as being invisible to the entire male population and criticising myself for why that is, I have realised that just like the Pussycat Dolls once sung, “I don’t need a ring around my finger, to make me feel complete.”

I am in total agreeance with Taylor Swift, there really is nothing more ‘liberating and freeing’ than knowing that you do not need to rely on others to feel complete, that you can be in a place that you know you are doing okay without someone, or as Swift put it ‘happy either way.’ That is not to say I do not ever want a boyfriend or further down the track, a husband. Of course I would love someone to go on Sunday drives with, take on double dates or bring home to meet my crazy family, it is just that I am not actively looking for it. Instead, as cliched as it sounds I am just taking life as it comes and still recovering from the fact that my one true love Sonny Bill Williams is a newlywed and I was not his bride.

I could be spending every night flicking through the toads on tinder in order to find my Prince but instead right now, just like my new best friend forever Miss Swift, “I don’t have any kind of idea who I’d want to be with, because I don’t have any pieces missing from my life right now. I’m not looking for anything to complete. I think that’s a nice place to be.” Unless you are Sonny Bill Williams, because I am quite sure I would find room in my heart for him to complete it. Quite simply, of course one day I would love to ride the roller coaster of love, but right now I am loving figuring out who I am and learning to love myself. If a guy walked into my life tomorrow and found me as interesting as I found them, I would not hesitate at the chance, but right now I am not going to go searching high and low for him.